About

I was born in 1990, and for about 13 years now I've been working on one topic — meeting women, seduction, bars, clubs, dating apps. And in parallel, inner transformation: how to stop being nervous around women, how to feel comfortable in my own skin, in my own body, how to become happier and calmer.

Average looks. Height 5'8". There were breaks — when I was in relationships. But the inner-development path keeps going more than 12 years now, and I'm still in it. Still working on myself. I still have things to work on.

This topic genuinely inspires me. I love women. I love sex. I like beautiful women. I like all kinds of women. But for me it's bigger than just finding myself a girlfriend or someone to sleep with. It's a vehicle for my inner transformation.

I'm convinced that to be genuinely attractive and successful with women, you have to change internally. Become someone who radiates energy. Who feels good inside his own body. Who is self-sufficient — and just shares that energy with the world. And then women are drawn to him, like to the sun. And not only women. The same skills work in business and in career: people in general, and women especially, feel the energy radiating from a person before they hear what he says. That's why I'm so passionate about this topic.

I work in tech. That's why this channel is anonymous. I just want to share the experience and the work I've done over these years — I think it'll be useful to someone.

The blog is called Slow Unlearn because at the core, 90% of the inner work — to radiate energy, to be happy, to be attractive — is to unlearn. To remove what's blocking us. Not to acquire something new.

In our head we understand nothing terrible will happen if we walk up to a woman and say "hi." But our body, our nervous system, codes this as a major threat. We tense up — and end up either doing nothing or behaving in a way that's weird and creepy.

Strip those ineffective reactions away — and 90% of the work is already done.

How to reach me

Email is the only channel: hi@slowunlearn.com. I read everything. I reply when I have something useful to say.