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5 essays on this topic.

Dating

How Often to Cold Approach: The Two-Nights-a-Week Rule

How often to cold approach if you actually want to get good with women: two nights a week, minimum, for years. Why anything less is theater.

M8 min · May 25

Dating

How to Talk to a Girl When You Don't Know What to Say

How to talk to a girl when you don't know what to say — the honest answer is the perfect line never existed, and the not-knowing is an excuse.

M8 min · May 19

Dating

Scarcity Mindset in Dating: Why You Should Approach Anyway

Scarcity mindset in dating: why the obvious advice (stop approaching, fix yourself first) is wrong, and what actually breaks the pattern from inside.

M10 min · May 11

Dating

What Makes a Man Attractive: 3 Components, None of Them Money or Looks

After thirteen years of working on this, I see three components driving male attractiveness — and the first does most of the work. Here's the system underneath the listicles.

M11 min · May 6

Dating

Where to Meet Women: Why Bars Still Win After 12 Years

Where to meet women if you want fast progress? After 12 years of approaching, the honest answer is still bars. Here's why the anti-bar gospel is wrong.

M9 min · May 5
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