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Self-Development

4 essays on this topic.

Dating

How Often to Cold Approach: The Two-Nights-a-Week Rule

How often to cold approach if you actually want to get good with women: two nights a week, minimum, for years. Why anything less is theater.

M8 min · May 25

Dating

How to Talk to a Girl When You Don't Know What to Say

How to talk to a girl when you don't know what to say — the honest answer is the perfect line never existed, and the not-knowing is an excuse.

M8 min · May 19

Inner Work

The Winner Effect: Why Feeling Like You Won Matters More Than Winning

The winner effect doesn't run on victories — it runs on the feeling of victory. Why most men accumulate wins they never feel, and how to train the body to register the small ones.

M9 min · May 17

Dating

What Makes a Man Attractive: 3 Components, None of Them Money or Looks

After thirteen years of working on this, I see three components driving male attractiveness — and the first does most of the work. Here's the system underneath the listicles.

M11 min · May 6
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